Is that the laws of life require a lot of work to understand.
If I come up with the second, I will let you know.
For now, view the rejection of self pity, persistence/perseverance, and curiosity as pretty good hypotheses, in terms of ideas which will most likely help you in the ways you eventually decide matter, and not hurt you in the ways you eventually decide you do not want to be hurt.
I continue to attempt to turn them into theories, but am nowhere close.