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What I am slowly realizing is that it possible to keep the awareness of a need in my consciousness, while simultaneously recognizing it will take time to meet it.

I suppose one could with justice assert that ability as the primary functional attribute of adulthood, but be that as it may, I have not had it. The only things I have been able to trust are things which are readily available and which change my mood reliably over s short timeframe, principle food and booze.

The thing with trauma is the present is already a source of anxiety so intense it forces me into emotional shutdown to get anything done. This I am good at. This is why I feel confident that if the job was charging into gunfire, I could do it. But I would not have my instincts, my intuition, at my service, and that makes, I think, a huge difference.

And logically if you take the fears of today and project them into the future, they metastasize. They increase exponentially to the point no human nervous system could accommodate them.

So people like me live in the present, to the extent  we live anywhere at all outside our hiding place.

Our culture, too, consists largely in people selling things by grabbing our attention, in a continual parade of now, never later. This makes money, and both panders to and creates our short attention spans.  This, in turn, helps people hide from all the grave and important and unanswered questions deep in the cavern of our collective psyche.