What stands in the way of gradualism for most of us? Is it not fear? That little project is not something you’ve done before, and you’re not sure you can do it, so you distract yourself. You look at other things. That project disappears through a process of negative hallucination.
But that project represents your unprocessed Shadow. It is by no means inconsequential, especially if its something that could be done in a few hours.
I think we could view the sum of our chosen Delays as the sum of our external Shadows. Each of them needs a ray of daylight. It needs to get done: and not hastily, sloppily. It needs to get done with affection and tenderness, and friendship.
What you offer the world is what you offer yourself. Therefore, what you offer yourself can be seen all around you.
Look around you. I would encourage you to make decisions, if they are needed. Do some one little thing, now.