All problems have death in them. It is up to us to find the life in them. And there are some forms of life, some qualities of being, which can ONLY be found in problems, which on that score should equally and accurately be labeled opportunities. A great life is a great set of problems, and a creative and generative interaction with them.
It is interesting to contemplate the vast difference in the quality of the eventual stories which might happen when identicsl events happen to very different people. What is an exciting and life affirming adventure for one person might well be terrifying and traumatizing for another. Something happens, we react, and from there it all goes spinning in countless different directions.
Should proper life schooling not consist in teaching how to generate the former reaction and minimize or avoid the latter?
And in a perfect world, wound we not to still want major fuckups to be possible?