I think one of the most useful things you can do as a parent is individuate, yourself. Grow up. Demonstrate it is possible. Have a mature personality, a sense of self, convictions, beliefs, things you stand for, and things you won’t stand for.
If I might return to my analogy with Buddhism, what the Buddha provided was an example of escape, or, really, transcendance. The Buddha was to ordinary people as an adult is to a child. But likewise, adults need to BE as adults to children, and far too often, in this world, and in the past, this has not happened.
It may or may not be true the Buddha was raised as a prince, but structurally, for the story, it is useful: he had everything any ordinary person could want. He was happy, in a conventional sense. There was nothing lacking. He had power, the esteem of others, a wife, and children. He had a home, and a larger family.