My children are teenagers. Thus far, no problems. That may change, but I think my basic philosophy is working, which is that my work is largely done by age 13. I have created a rocket heading out into the world, with a trajectory and a momentum, and I am only there when asked for. Otherwise, I will just let it go, and hopefully enjoy watching where it goes.
You cannot build common sense or self restraint when a kid is 15, and I think the mistake many people make is to wait until they start having problems to ask themselves what sort of person they are raising. By then, there is nothing you can do about it.
As a general rule, if you have to apply force, you have already failed. You have already fallen short of what was possible. It applies in social life as much as in the military world.
As Sun Tzu said, it does not take good hearing to perceive thunder, or good eyesight to see lightning. What is valuable is to see them far before they happen. Very few people even attempt to live like this.