Sometimes you are doing people a favor when you let them do a favor for you. Sometimes allowing others to fuss over you is ingratiating to them, and a source of pleasure, and this extends far beyond mothers mothering.
This can be healthy, if the process is clear and boundaries drawn. The unhealthy variant, of course, is codependence, which is the need to be needed to the point that you will hurt people to then help them “heal”.
As I say often, but will repeat slightly differently here, the Left is really characterized by three separate Personality Disorders: Sociopathy, Narcissism, and Borderline Personality Disorder. For the first–of which both Hillary and Joe Biden are good examples–the methods of the Left allow them to gather to themselves power, money, and attention.
For the BPD folks, the Left serves as a tribal cult which provides them with a stable-ish identity.
And what the Left provides Narcissists is the self gratification of feeling important, immortal, and morally virtuous. This is the essence of the codependent “ethos”. They will burn a city down, in order to be seen to demand its rebuilding. Not to actually HELP, of course: that is plebian work, which is much less important than striking a pose and saying virtuous words expressing noble sentiments.
I continue to hope that the water is flowing out on all these creeps, imbeciles, villains, and sadists. It is a profoundly ugly scene, when viewed without the rose colored glasses of stupidity, ignorance, and naivete.