Both tendencies, of course, can be pattern interrupted with mindfulness, but this seems to be the tendency.
And I would add, that most men fail to see when women are being compliant. They fail to see when they are going along to get along and assume that an equal bargain has been struck, when it hasn’t.
At the same time, I do think many American women expect too much of men. Men naturally act like men, but they are now supposed to always know when they are supposed to be men and when they are supposed to be women. They are supposed to change roles malleably and instantaneously, which is just not something that will ever be realistic.
Gender roles evolved–and I am am invoking both culture and biological evolution here–for reasons. All of us can become better human beings. This is our task. But the start of all real progress is recognizing with honesty and wisdom the present realities, and not attempting to build on any other foundation.
I would add that all these gender confusions are in my view really attempts to escape from life itself, which is overwhelming for many. Rather than take on a task in life, one takes on a role, in the same way an actor plays someone else. This is ignoble.
Some men have always felt the need to dress as women, and some women, men. This is very old. And there is no reason to treat these people with the cruelty their alleged advocates devote to people who persist in traditional beliefs. At the same time, they are also not special because of their particular obsessions, and even if they are harmless, they are also not role models for any of us who are not by nature driven in that direction.
No society thrives by making ideals of the peripheral and unhealthy.