A whole bunch of posts are going to show up quickly, since I am taking off voice memos. Some of them I will admit up front I’m not going to be happy with, but something decent today is better than something great tomorrow, and much, much better than something that never comes into existence because someone is being a perfectionist.
The two greatest personality traits you can possess are an enjoyment of work of all sorts; and empathy, which combined with the spirit of not avoiding work, will lead naturally to generosity in most cases.
Two people like this, married, will stay married and be happy. If there was a secret to our grandparents happy marriages, this was likely most of it. They expected life to be work, they suffered enough to be empathetic, and they combined the two when they committed to their spouses.