Healing from psychological trauma is an inherently creative act. There is no status quo ante. You cannot return. All trauma inherently forces us to grow by pushing through it and integrating it. There is only forward.
And it seems to me that in healing you end a “chain of abuses”. The person or people who hurt you were also hurt. Their inability to process their wounds is what created their cruelty and thoughtlessness. When you create a new, stable self, without that violence, you answer the question we were all born for.