It seems to me you have to first become fully conscious of who you are in order to begin to choose a path of growth. Until you know yourself, that is your primary work
If you equate your mind with your self, it is easy to believe that it is easy to change.
But you are a pattern of energy flow, some of which is overtly emotional, some of which is something else which needs its own name. I will call it “that”, as that is the least reductive.
People, and the world, are vastly more complex and interesting than is assumed by those who are compelled to conquer both. You can get outer silence, clearly, and external order through violence, and call it peace.
But true calm and peace flow outward from the inside. Nothing in the outer world can equal the peace and joy of what lies within all of us.