It is the unhappiest people who are most concerned with how the rest of us are living. They claim they want to help us, but they really just want more company in their misery.
Most of this is unconscious.
And I will add that Christian doctrine, as typically iterated particularly by Protestants, places a dual and terrible burden on its sincere adherents: not only do they have to walk a narrow path themselves, but in some measure the duty is placed on them to help others avoid eternal damnation.
This breeds terror quite naturally, and frightened people are productive people and honest people, but not spontaneous and authentically good people. And they are more or less BOUND to be in the business of the rest of us, even if it is contrary to the natural inclination of the better souls among them.
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In sports, as in life, there is no other team. The Bengals will play the Bengals today and the Rams will play the Rams.
This was John Woodens key insight. If the Bengals achieve perfection, they cannot be beaten. Same with the Rams.
The service each team will perform for the other is work hard to reveal any and all latent flaws. The goal is not to win, but to exceed all previous performances, and come as close to ideal action as possible in a highly circumscribed and essentially arbitrary environment. This is why we call it a game, and why we call it play.