The problem is excessive, ambient, continual fear. This is a terrible problem for, perhaps most notably, Borderline Personslity Disorder types who, I have argued, are becoming more and more common.
How to deal?
Two steps: 1) find a scapegoat, upon whom can be hung all the sins of the world, like men, white mom, of heyerosexual white men.
2) Hate them, but do so through the illusion of righteous anger. Anger is the flip side of fear, and hate might be seen as an artist mixing fear, shame and anger on their palette in roughly equal measures.
Fear becomes anger, and chronic fear becomes chronic anger which, by being rationalized, becomes an antidote to shame.
It’s s trifecta. Everyone wins but truth, and all the genuinely decent human beings who are then attacked with no scruples by these compulsive lunatics.
This is very, very close to the core truth not just of our age but many ages.