The goal is not to become someone else. The goal is not to lose all the signposts and markers that are “you”. It is not oblivion. It is not even, necessarily, to lose all your bad habits.
The goal is to exist within that latticework structure that is “you”, which is in constant motion, but within knowable patterns, and feel MORE like you. To get closer to a feeling of comfort and calm. It is to learn how to move forward to something that feels good, by realizing that most of what you have been clinging to really doesn’t help much, and certainly does not feel like a long term home.
This, in any event, is my particular musing, on this particular day, at this particular moment.
There is no true loss on the spiritual path, but it FEELS that way. It feels that way.