When you are with someone you love, who truly understands you, no words are needed.
And when you have processed all the conflicts and wounds within you, and learned to stop hurting yourself, then no thoughts are needed.
I have more than once thought that the way meditation is often taught is backwards: the GOAL is not clinging to thoughts, and gradually building up the silences and space between thoughts, but it seems to me this is also an outcome of other forms of work.
Kum Nye, to take an obvious example, is intended to get you to the starting line. The completion of Kum Nye, at the level of principle, as I understand it, is to enable you to BEGIN meditating.
And for me, beginning Kum Nye properly has involved dealing with trauma. And this is what many of us need: to deal with our trauma to begin to learn to relax, then to learn to relax, and THEN to learn to meditate, which is to deepen our spiritual connections and awareness.
For me, the trauma process continues to involve neurofeedback, AVE, Heartrate Variability, Yoga and Autogenics. And as I think I’ve said, in my own experience Skullcap is better than CBD in calming me down. I’ve tried even expensive CBD, and it doesn’t do anything for me. I take Skullcap every night. It was an important element in learning to sleep without alcohol.
And of course a lot of this is trying to connect with my experience, and allowing it to flow. Trauma resolution and progress in Kum Nye are more or less the same thing, and Peter Levine is the only person I have ever seen mention Kum Nye outside of the community itself.
As a practice, it should be much better known, but there is nothing sexy about it. You won’t build stronger abs, and no Hollywood celebrities are pushing it. And what you get is subtle and slow. But it is also profound.
And the end is learning to process all experience as it happens. It is literally a process for building sustainable happiness, connection, and balance. These are not things that come in bottles, and not thing you can buy. They are not easily attained, and in fact, many if not most people in this country at least live entire lives that are unhappy, alienated, and imbalanced.
If it is worth learning to play a musical instrument, or a video game, or learning any art or craft or sport and any activity whatsoever, how much more is it worth learning to be happy, connected (with your experience and sense of being, first, and then naturally with others, and with nature, and with “Life” generally), and balanced?
Is that not the most important game we can play? Money can’t buy any of that. Money buys experiences, but not a soul. And even if we all have souls, if we cannot connect with them, their value is lost on us experientially, which is to say practically, which is to say they may as well not be there.