I thought about it, and what she was really trying to do is reorganize her internal ecology to accept as normal the idea that she had to work this hard to meet her own standards. The problem with positive thinking is that it can become another club you use to beat yourself. You think you need to be positive, and think you are doing something wrong when you start getting emotional conflicts, confusion, fear, and the like. Those feelings then become, in turn, a further source of conflict.
As I have said before, I have found that if you can accept feelings fully, open yourself to them, then they disappear. The essence of tranquility is learning to do this constantly and with skill.
This is also the nature of self organization. You have a hundred messengers within you, all trying to tell you different things. You have GOOD ADVICE within you, PERFECT advice even (I would submit theoretically), but you spend much of your time resisting the voices, instead of letting them flow, and seeing how the dust settles in the end. That part is worth watching and using.
The premise of Autogenic Self Regulation, which was developed Johannes Schulz and Wolfgang Luthe, if memory serves, is that in the non-ordinary state of deep relaxation, the knots within your unconscious can be loosened, generally through non-guided, spontaneous visualizations.
Holotropic Breathwork operates on more or less the same premise, but it is much easier to get into altered states with it.
A useful social order would be based upon the purpose of facilitating self organizing systems to move towards wholeness, as implied in the Title.
As I think I have said at some point, I like to think of all human orders, from the personal to the global, as visualizable as tiny dynamic circles of smoke or fog–like little hurricanes, and that I call chakras, after the Sanskrit for wheel or discus–that interact, sometimes rapidly and spontaneously with one another. The point of freedom is allowing this process to happen. The crime of tyranny is that it prevents such emergent orders, and all the personal and social felicity they enable.
Life is so much more fun when you get to play. This, here, is my play. If I lived in China, Cuba, Venezuela, or Iran, I would not be able to do it the way I do now, and I have reason to believe the world would be poorer for it.