I would suggest that, in American culture at least, the major relevant difference between male and female psychology is the degree of control men need over their lives and situations.
Women, until recently, were expected to lose their family home and their family name. By and large, they accepted this.
They were expected to work more for less recognition, at least in most places and with respect to most men.
Here is what I will say, about me: I recently realized that perhaps the worst crime my mother committed was destroying my feminine self. I don’t know how she did it, but she did. I saw this in a dream. I also saw her as she really is, which was pretty unpleasant, but still useful.
And what I am finding is that, for me, growth is consisting less in what I do than in what I am accepting, what I am welcoming, and the defenses I am removing. Flow only happens when you start to bring down the walls.
I was trying and failing to describe Tantra to someone the other day, and I will put it this way at this moment: Tantra is the experientially based understanding that the path to all wisdom lies through the senses. It may be that all this is an illusion. But it is a very convincing illusion, and if you want to get to the other side, you cannot simply will the sum total of your awareness to disappear. You have to know in detail who you are–which is to say how you appear to be at this level of reality–and that consists in the sum total of your experience, which is to say thoughts, memories, and sense impressions of all sorts.