I think many people control their own anxiety by controlling other people.
Logically, depersonalization will lead to externalization, and the behavior of others become conflated with one’s own behavior. If you cannot feel your own Self, then confusing your own emotions with those of others is easy.
Interestingly, to me, I can see the residue of this being done to me.
If true power is mastery of the self, then incomplete and fake, ersatz, power comes from mastering others through fear and manipulation. Such power does not in the end buy lasting or deep peace.
I am speaking out loud here. I think there is something here, but feel free to doubt me.