If you had to choose between having “I am a special snowflake”, and “I am NOT a special snowflake” tattooed on your forehead, what would you choose? This is an interesting question. For my part, I like to tell people to pursue their own individuality. I try to do the same myself. Yet, this morning, when the alarm clock went off, I realized I am NOT a special snowflake, and I have to go do work I don’t really want to do, because I need the money.
You both are and are NOT a special snowflake. This is akin, if one wants to pursue high levels of abstraction, to the wave/particle duality. Is matter one or the other? Yes. Are you special and like everyone else? Yes.