I look around me, and most of what most people do all day every day is in large measure motivated by fear. Soldiers charge into guns in no small measure because of fear: fear of shame, fear of dishonor, fear of censure, fear of failing in their own eyes and those of others.
Many good things arise because of fear. Social order arises because of fear. People stop at the red and go on the green because of fear–well founded fears of traffic accidents and tickets, but also fear of sticking out, of being different, of not following the rules, and of being known as a non-rule-follower. In some countries people refuse to jaywalk even when it is the middle of the night and no one is around. Why? Fear.
Most of our automatic, reflexive behavior is based on fear. Fear has survival value. It keeps you alive. And without it most social orders would collapse in short order.
But something beyond it is possible. And the possibility of bringing that world into being begins with stating it is possible, with recognizing how we live, why we live the way we do, and contemplating how we can and should change.