I am not judging: merely trying to speak truth. I find many heterosexualities nearly as weird as homosexuality, and that many gay couples are emotionally healthier and happier than many heterosexual couples I don’t doubt for a moment.
It does seem to me, though, that on some level it feels like a loss, and if we consider the idea that in many cases it is a sexuality redirected by premature sexual experience, sexual experience perhaps originating in the abuse of adolescent loneliness and already existing sense of loss, then this claim seems credible.
If I might speak autobiographically, I grew up in a home where we always lied. Whatever we were feeling, we pretended that we were feeling what we assumed was appropriate. This basic mindset seems to define the leftists world view, and I think I can speak psychologically when I say that this is one of the primary reasons it bothers me so much, why I react emotionally to it so much. They want to tell all of us who we should be, how we should think, and are quite willing to use violence to get outer compliance. Gays, it seems to me, as long term non-compliers, non-conformists, as victims of this mindset, ought to be particularly sensitive to it, not practicing it from a new pulpit of political power.
As things stand, the gay lobby (and many others) also likes to pretend that things are what they think they ought to be, that gayness is exactly equal in all ways to heterosexuality, that gay couples are exactly equal to man and wife, but I continue to believe this to be an unfounded claim, and an apparently quite inaccurate one in a great many cases.
The task is to evaluate things as they ARE, to see the individual nuances, to feel the differences and the similarities across populations, and to see individual variations.
What is great about gayness, and what is in some respects worse? Above all, what is INTERESTING about it? These are all fabulous questions.
Yes, fabulous.
And for those curious about my own sexuality, I feel not the slightest interest in men. I just don’t. My dick is utterly indifferent. My concerns are ethical, both the very valid claims gays make that they want to be integrated fully, and the also valid claims that, particularly where children are concerned, there might in fact be differences that matter.