Nothing is less confusing to me than how people get confused by life.
I will add, and this is actually a very important point, that everyone who is alive–who has not committed suicide–is in some form of equilibrium. It is very often an equilibrium which involves self deception, self medication in some form, and frequent ups and downs, but which more or less “works”. And when you try to “fix” what is working, you risk upsetting everything.
Change has to align with the circle of your equilibrium. You need to alter its trajectory gradually, without undoing the things you didn’t know were holding up you don’t know what.
Don’t gulp. Not where you are concerned. And don’t pounce where others are concerned. Feed a hint here and there. A positive attitude (if you can manage it, honestly) and a kind word here and there are about the best you can hope for where most people are concerned. Anything more: let them ask you.
This is a new idea and thought pattern for me. I am afraid I have hurt a lot of people trying to help them, although I think in most cases they retreat instinctively before I have a chance. I’m the emotional repair men from Brazil. That’s a bit exaggerated, but not as much as I would like.
I don’t know what all I don’t understand, but it is a LOT. I keep trying to get a little better day by day, and I seem to be making glacially slow, but real, progress.