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Children of the REEE

“Empathy and its absence is a hallmark issue for children and adults with history of developmental trauma.  Two kinds of problems arise: an impaired capacity to feel for the other and/or feeling for the other without end.  The latter may not be true empathy as much as a truncated ability to see the other as the other, and as a result, feeling the pain of other’s as one’s own.”

Sebern Fisher, pg. 19

On the one hand, these children are utterly unable to relate to conservatives as human beings, as an extension of their inability to relate to ANYONE as a human being, and on the other, the entirety of their moral world relates what amounts to an inability to form emotional boundaries, such that they ARE the people they speak for.  They truly believe they feel their pain, when in reality there is no true emotional understanding/empathy whatever.

There were consequences of women going to work en masse, and of the sexual revolution.  There are consequences of TV’s in every home, and in some cases, every room (We only had one TV in our home.  To this day, my kids don’t have TV’s in their rooms.  They do have piles and piles of books).  There are consequences of mobility and the loss of the extended family, because even if one mother could not do her job, perhaps her mother, or an aunt, or the other grandmother, could.  And when you have a single parent home, that mother is enormously stressed all the time, and needs to be a virtual saint to even perform adequately, especially where small children are concerned, and in a great many cases, that mother herself grew up with various developmental and other traumas.

In essence, I really think this is the primary drama and trauma and problem of black ghettos in this country.  I would hazard a guess that, if an honest study could be done, 80% of the kids in, say, South Chicago, suffer from some degree of DTD.  Most of them will never be diagnosed, and will never receive treatment.  Most of them will pass it along to their kids.  Poverty makes everything worse, but it is not the primary culprit.