Shame is more or less directly the feeling that you don’t belong anywhere, with anyone.
If my thesis is correct, it is the need to surrender in response to social pressure, but when it arises from a childhood which has nothing to do with present circumstances, there is no one to surrender to.
To be sure, this may well be the key psychological force behind mass conformitarian movements, but even there the people cannot belong as themselves. They can merely belong as what they become in the group, never as who they are as individuals. As people with names, they still don’t belong.
Shame is a neurological spasm, and the cure is ending that spasm.