Congruence

It occurs to me that the goal of personal development is that your emotional reactions are perfectly appropriate to and proportionate to present existing realities.  Not imagined realities, not past realities, not possible future realities (except of course to the extent it is prudent to feel emotions now about things which may happen in the future in respect to which concrete actions can be planned and executed.)

And when there is nothing to react to, there is contentment and satisfaction, as a default state.

Most of us, of course, are twisted into many times, and many imaginary spaces, nearly always in ways it is usually impossible to feel fully, and respond to appropriately.

It occurs to me this is one draw of adrenaline sports: you can’t be present anywhere else, so it is a drug to make everything else disappear for a time.

Drugs and every other addiction of course too, quiet that nest of unquiet.

But if emotions have logic–and they do–then the goal is for that logic to conform to present circumstances, and present circumstances only. If you are well integrated, no one ever need worry about or wonder why you are reacting the way you are.  It is the way any healthy person would react.

Any more, though, to be healthy is to be special.  My standard is very high, and I very certainly do not meet it.  Yet.