Quite often, what is called “healing” is really growing new emotional muscles we didn’t even imagine were possible. There is no default setting for life. You are either moving forward, or regressing. I don’t think stasis, true equilibrium, is possible, even if the apparent motion in both directions is slow and barely perceptible.
I am not the person I would have been, had I had different parents, did I not carry this horror within me. But that energy is something which drives me to new discoveries, to inner work which never would have happened had I been happy. It has given me an extraordinary psychological pain tolerance.
Much of happiness in life consists in accepting fully who you are, where you are, and where you are going.
Free will is realizing, while you are floating in a strong rivers current, that you can still paddle. Acceptance is realizing you can’t get out of the river, taking a deep breath, and embracing in advance What Comes Next.